[Jalili]

This is becoming a disturbing trend with some of these prominent black figures.
Yeah this problems need to be addressed but they need to be addressed at the roots of these issues.

We need to work with each other instead of just talking about each other. Everybody knows some one that is separated from their child(ren) but what are we doing in our families to have a relationship with those "lost, abandoned" children.

Are we in our families reaching out to the families the children and their mothers?
Are we making sure the fathers are trying to do something for the child?
Are we looking at both sides of the situation and understanding that in some cases (not all) that maybe the mothers of these children are at the center of some of the distance?

We like to point fingers these days instead of being the first to raise their hand and take responsibly for what we have done or aren't doing.

Well let me be the first,

I am at a distance from my daughter and find it very hard to have a real conversation with her mother that doesn't lead to an argument or some one pointing a finger.
Getting back into a child's life when some of the surrounding people don't want you there isn't easy BUT that does not mean any one should be giving up on trying to be a FAMILY.

I am trying to lead by example and be there for my daughter, so these comments will not hurt me because I'm trying, but if you know some one that is doing the same thing are you just talking loud about them to a large group of people or are you talking to them face to face.