What we look for in a Brother/Sister

[Kweku_Omowale]

ness,congrats sis,it took me while to look in the avatar lol,that was you and ur new king,i wish you and mr revelation,all what momma afrika and the honourable ancestors will reveal to you both,always keep in mind,that life is not a sea of roses,but you got eachothers back,thats what counts and together you both will prepare for the worse,coz the best is yet to come,

with u both in spirit like franz fannon said" towards the afrikan revolution"

[Revelation]

Originally Posted by Kweku_Omowale

ness,congrats sis,it took me while to look in the avatar lol,that was you and ur new king,i wish you and mr revelation,all what momma afrika and the honourable ancestors will reveal to you both,always keep in mind,that life is not a sea of roses,but you got eachothers back,thats what counts and together you both will prepare for the worse,coz the best is yet to come,

with u both in spirit like franz fannon said" towards the afrikan revolution"

Nes and I appreciate the comments, Kweku. We are always learning and building with one another and we thank God and our ancestors for giving us the opportunity to share mind and spirit with each other everyday.

Peace and take care,

-R.

[Akyeame Kwame]

Congratulations on the hook up Rev and Nes! May it last long and be fruitful! Ase! Stay BlackNificent!!!!

AK

[Nesayem]

Thank you so much for the love. Rev and I have made some concious decisions and plan on staying commited to them. We are so appreciative of the experience and glad to share it with all of you. You know I'm working on the fruitful part. lol.

[Raha]

I'd like to extend thanks and warmth to the new union of Nesayem and Revelation.

May The Creator continually bless your union as you two walk through this life and the next together.

P.E.A.C.E.

[Nia Maishani]

Originally Posted by Nesayem

With that being said Im proud to be Mrs.Revelation.......

Are you two talking an official marriage? If so, I don't know how I missed the offical announcement! Either way, please accept my congratulations, and I am proud to see this has come about! You two look BLACKNIFICENT together, by the way--not just looking at the photos, either. This type of pairing does not happen every day Nes and Rev, so I'm going to make it my business to hold you two to everlasting gratitude for what I know has to be a divinely convened union.

Originally Posted by Kweku_Omowale

always keep in mind,that life is not a sea of roses,but you got eachothers back,thats what counts

I'm going to speak for everyone at this forum in saying that what also counts is that we at this forum too have your back. The Universal Spiritual Realm has your back. Anyone who disagrees, speak now or forever hold your peace.

This hookup IS the revolution!

[Nia Maishani]

Like most of us here, what I look for within a mate is Rootedness to the core. That is, being rooted in who he is genetically-- mentally, physically and spiritually.

When I say genetically, I am not talking about whether his eyes are brown or grey, whether his skin is this dark or this light, whether he is tall or short, what size is his nose or lips or arms or clothing, what is his hair texture or style or anything else superficial. If I have learned nothing else through my experiences, I learned early on that overattendance to "appearance" always, ALWAYS means some critical non-physical trait is being neglected--thus the attempt to compensate or overcompensate through making things "appear" to be together. To place equal value on the conspicuous-superficial as is placed on meaningful qualities is to devalue and miss out on the fuller (yet inconspicuous) benefit of the latter. When I say genetically, I mean all that is deep within the encoding that is manifested as melanin--regardless of gradation.

When I say mentally and spiritually, I mean the brother knows what type of brother he is--who he is--by ancestral nature, and with this knowledge, consistently strives to maintain awareness and live accordingly.

These few and seemingly simple expectations are too much to ask of most people--even those who consider themselves conscious. Basically, in order to embody these qualities in a true sense, a person really has to reject every value they have ever been taught by western uncivilisation. This is a process which requires one to work against the grain on a daily basis, refusing to fall off.

Unfortunately, most people--even Afrikans here and abroad--are out here trying to find their next instant gratification tool and/or their next trophy--in (primarily the shell of) another human being. As conscious people, we must evolve beyond that type of thinking.

[Kweku_Omowale]

i agree with you nia,the universe and the ancestors got everybodys back! and i truly wish all da best for ness and revelation

*sadface* i cant go to the afrikan spirituality sympsium,nuthin like that happens in kanada* sniff sniff*

[Kweku_Omowale]

i would like to expand a little bit,sis!

clothes dont make the man,nor the woman,a man is nota man,because what he wears and the number of the woman he went out with,a woman is nota woman because she wears make up and dress pretty( thats what my grandmother taught us) and based on that,i base myself,because actions speak louder than words,because social conditions determine awareness,the problem with contnental afrikans,that are christianized,they come to the west and look for subterfuges,some of them,that have reacheda certain level of confort and privellege,end up with white women,thats because they forsake their culture,for the culture of the majority,like chinua achebe mentions on his book when the character fights between tradition and western values,it is due fora collision course.what they llack is cutlural awareness and knowledge of self,by going to major western educational institutions they think,they have aimed high,after that,they can not think independantly because,whoever they work for,wont let dem,be themselves,so they becomea slave for the institutions they work for.
more and more,i see continental afrikans with white women,i just wonder what the village elders and people would say when they arrive with their yurugus in their perspective tribes and places

[Nia Maishani]

Originally Posted by Kweku_Omowale

*sadface* i cant go to the afrikan spirituality sympsium,nuthin like that happens in kanada* sniff sniff*

Sounds to me like kkklanada is waiting for *somebody* to MAKE it happen there. Organizational resources and seeds abound at the Assata Forum.

[WombanAuset]

Originally Posted by Nia Maishani

Like most of us here, what I look for within a mate is Rootedness to the core. That is, being rooted in who he is genetically-- mentally, physically and spiritually.

When I say genetically, I am not talking about whether his eyes are brown or grey, whether his skin is this dark or this light, whether he is tall or short, what size is his nose or lips or arms or clothing, what is his hair texture or style or anything else superficial. If I have learned nothing else through my experiences, I learned early on that overattendance to "appearance" always, ALWAYS means some critical non-physical trait is being neglected--thus the attempt to compensate or overcompensate through making things "appear" to be together. To place equal value on the conspicuous-superficial as is placed on meaningful qualities is to devalue and miss out on the fuller (yet inconspicuous) benefit of the latter. When I say genetically, I mean all that is deep within the encoding that is manifested as melanin--regardless of gradation.

When I say mentally and spiritually, I mean the brother knows what type of brother he is--who he is--by ancestral nature, and with this knowledge, consistently strives to maintain awareness and live accordingly.

These few and seemingly simple expectations are too much to ask of most people--even those who consider themselves conscious. Basically, in order to embody these qualities in a true sense, a person really has to reject every value they have ever been taught by western uncivilisation. This is a process which requires one to work against the grain on a daily basis, refusing to fall off.

Unfortunately, most people--even Afrikans here and abroad--are out here trying to find their next instant gratification tool and/or their next trophy--in (primarily the shell of) another human being. As conscious people, we must evolve beyond that type of thinking.

Now thats what im talking about...Can I get an Amen...Amennnnnnnn

[Nia Maishani]

Originally Posted by Kweku_Omowale

i would like to expand a little bit,sis!

clothes dont make the man,nor the woman,a man is nota man,because what he wears and the number of the woman he went out with,a woman is nota woman because she wears make up and dress pretty( thats what my grandmother taught us)

Your grandmother taught you wisely.

Originally Posted by Kweku_Omowale

...the problem with contnental afrikans,that are christianized,they come to the west and look for subterfuges,some of them,that have reacheda certain level of confort and privellege,end up with white women,thats because they forsake their culture,for the culture of the majority,like chinua achebe mentions on his book when the character fights between tradition and western values,it is due fora collision course.what they llack is cutlural awareness and knowledge of self,by going to major western educational institutions they think,they have aimed high,after that,they can not think independantly because,whoever they work for,wont let dem,be themselves,so they becomea slave for the institutions they work for.
more and more,i see continental afrikans with white women,i just wonder what the village elders and people would say when they arrive with their yurugus in their perspective tribes and places

Your statements are true Brother Kweku--I see this occurring myself. Anyone paying attention can see it if they are not in denial or wearing blinders. However, when we point the finger at "them," guess how many fingers point back at "us?" In short, we are they and they are we, and there is no shortage of colonization/miscegenation/despiritualization among victims of Yuruguan Supremacy anyplace the world over.

[Revelation]

Originally Posted by Nia Maishani

Are you two talking an official marriage? If so, I don't know how I missed the offical announcement! Either way, please accept my congratulations, and I am proud to see this has come about! You two look BLACKNIFICENT together, by the way--not just looking at the photos, either. This type of pairing does not happen every day Nes and Rev, so I'm going to make it my business to hold you two to everlasting gratitude for what I know has to be a divinely convened union.

I really appreciate it Nia. Our union is such that we don't feel that we need state recognized papers to officiate our love for one another; when the time comes there will be a formal ceremony that expresses this spiritual union and the commitment we have for one another to our family and friends. We feel as though this is very much so a divinely convened union and we both await the journey God has for us in mind.

Asante Sana,

-R.

[BlackQueen]

Love is beautiful and powerful,especially when you find someone with whom you connect with on all levels. When a love like that is found,hold on to it and never let it go. A love like yours is sacred,do not allow negative energies to enter your world. May your love stay as strong as you are,Warriors.

[Conscious Sistah]

I too like BlackQueen7980, am told that i am quite picky, but thats only because i have expectations, that i really don't want to compromise on.

I don't know if its because of my age or where i live, but to find a strong, conscious, famliy orientated, community orientated, spritual, pan-african, educated as well as headucated, african warrior, who i have a spritual and mental connection with, that are not my friends is really hard.

That is why i don't really date, or go out with anyone at the moment because i don't want to involve myself in anyone that isn't any of those things.

This may indeed be too idealistic of an ideal partner, but i have time to find out!