Top 2 Traits in a Mate

[IfasehunReincarnated]

What are Your Top 2 Traits in a Mate

[Elisa Keisha]

what does environmentally conscious mean? (I ask just in case u talkin about ppl worried about nature n all that)

anyways... I will need three options!!! I need honesty and conscioussness, but I aint gonna lie to myself... someone that its not atractive to me (in many ways, Im not sayin I need the man on the magazine) would be my friend but wouldnt work as my partner. nah mean? (hey Im young)

[Draptomania]

HONESTY!!!! Hands down, I cannot STAND a liar. A liar makes me feel as if I'm not worthy of the truth and I despise that. I am the type of person who doesn't look AT a person on the outside, I look at what their spirit tells me. I would rather be happy with my mate and living in a slum, than to be miserable and living in a palace, you know? But most of all, I need someone to complete me, fill in those spaces where I am lacking.

[IfasehunReincarnated]

BE SURE TO VOTE. posting comments is cool, but i am running this for the votes. lol and no. only take 2 votes please. environmentally conscious is having concern for the welfare and health of teh planet. for example, my mate insists that we recycle and that we drive fuel efficient cars. this is a part of her lifestyle. had i not been willing to do these things and much more, this would have dramatically changed how interested she was in me.

AND BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. if you have never dated someone that you were not attracted to, then looks are in your Top Two. actions speak louder than words. Again, if you have never dated someone that "you" would personally call unattractive, then looks are very important to you.

[Elisa Keisha]

oh lawd... if action speaks louder than words... then I cannot vote, coz I have only dated non-consiouss, not too honest and not too atractive guys.... oh man, u just depressed me....!!! (hey, a rev partner is hard to find!)

lol

ok, ok...aight! Ima vote sumthin!

[OsunkoyaIfayomi]

Kinda late for me, But if I could do it all over again it would be someone conscious, I voted very spiritual, and I mean African if you can label that Spirituality, I didn't vote honest because if they are very spiritual they will be honest I din't vote militant because if they are into their African roots they will be militant, I did put attractive but that doesn't necesarily me beauty without you can be physically unattractive in the worlds view but if your heart is pure it can make you attractive without ( ok I want them to look good too lol) Peace

[she_ba]

i chose politically active and spiritual.

spiritual like the brotha said encompasses honesty and imo respect for the earth...i didnt choose militant cause u can sit on your butt and talk "militance" so instead i chose politically active. for these reasons i've been single. lol.

much love

she_ba

[SoularFlarez]

honesty and very spiritual....tha rest we can build on togetha

[Elisa Keisha]

oh I forgot to say what I finally chossed...

Honest: honest as regular (good) ppl is.... I mean I dont want to live in a lie and be always wonderin what's really up with him of if I can trust him.

Politically active: coz if I have to choose between this, spirituality,and envioromentally consious, I choose the first one... but I just ask for some consciousness, it doesnt really matter if he aint super involved in every struggle if I can have good ("political") conversation with him when necessary.

I left out the atractive part, coz it would be hard for me to share my time with someone not honest and not consiouss, but Im 100% with chosen1975. I dont like "magazine" folks... but they have to be somehow atractive to me. when there's not atraction I call it friendship.

[IfasehunReincarnated]

• by militant i mean military oriented.
• by spiritual i mean whatever you define as a relationship w/ Divine
• by environmentally consious i mean respect and protection of planet.
• by honest i mean tells you the truth, not what you think you 'need' to hear.
• by politically active i mean involved in some form of political reform or education
• by phsyically fit i mean someone that takes care of their body
• by vegetarian i mean no fish no chicken no pork no beef no animals. period
• by good credit good job i mean someone that has proven they can tare of themself like an adult - and i mean sisters too. there a lot of sisters running around that think its okay to live with their mothers and beg money from their fathers. everyone gots to work. even revolutionaries and spiritualists. work is a PART of the life experience.

[IfasehunReincarnated]

i can believe no one chose credit and job. i know plenty of you sisters are not even going to entertain dating a man that doesnt have a job.

this is about your HONEST preferences. not your "ideal" preferences.

once again, if you have never dated someone that you consider unattractive or that didnt have a job, then we can assume that those are of paramount importance to you. its not bad, its just reality. we can discuss what we "should" be choosing after we find out what people are "really" choosing.

[Elisa Keisha]

well... maybe Im too young to be thinkin about my "date"'s job... maybe if he's the type that dont study dont work I would be worried... but I wouldnt put it before the other two.

[TyreeA]

politically active and honest, but if I could have I would have added very spiritual and militant as well.

On the non listed items I would added politically mature, because that can make a difference as to how people carry themselves in public and how they deal with people.

[Learn06]

beauty and introspection.

[IfasehunReincarnated]

you are guys are easy. not a single person that voted counted having a mate with a job among their highest priorities. so let me get this straight. all you ladies are willing to support your man even when you first met him if he is honest and spiritual? lol...somebody isnt tellin the truth..hmm