Why would older men what to be with younger women?

[Queen_Samiya]

I am so curious to know, because I know that it is not fair for women whom is in their forties that can't get decent men of their age. Why would a average man that is 42 years old want to go with a woman that is 18 years old? Is it something wrong with that picture? Is it natural for a older man to go with a younger woman?

[BlackQueen]

There is nothing wrong with it,as long as both parties know that there is more to that relationship than age and sexual experiences. If the older man or woman is a revolutionary,he/she can teach their younger mates about Amerikkka,and the oppression that we are fighting against.

Originally Posted by Queen_Samiya

I am so curious to know, because I know that it is not fair for women whom is in their forties that can't get decent men of their age. Why would a average man that is 42 years old want to go with a woman that is 18 years old? Is it something wrong with that picture? Is it natural for a older man to go with a younger woman?

[rebelAfrika]

Originally Posted by Queen_Samiya

I am so curious to know, because I know that it is not fair for women whom is in their forties that can't get decent men of their age. Why would a average man that is 42 years old want to go with a woman that is 18 years old? Is it something wrong with that picture? Is it natural for a older man to go with a younger woman?

If the older man doesn't have kids, then being with a woman his age isn't a good idea for having kids. He should be with somebody younger. If the older man doesn't want kids, than being with a younger woman can be good in terms of having somebody to take care of him when he gets too old. Also, the older man can easily get his ego stroked by a young woman who finds him to be so "worldly." Plus, men who are shallow and into appearences more than personality might find younger women to be more attractive than older women. And just in case some of you are wondering...I didn't think this out because I am into it...I thought it out because my daddy was consideraly older than my mama.

[Sun Ship]

Originally Posted by Queen_Samiya

I am so curious to know, because I know that it is not fair for women whom is in their forties that can't get decent men of their age. Why would a average man that is 42 years old want to go with a woman that is 18 years old? Is it something wrong with that picture? Is it natural for a older man to go with a younger woman?

Sister, I do understand why you might ask a question like that, and there are truly a lot of Black women in their 40’s who feel like they are on a desert island when it comes to finding a Black man in their life, also I know there are men who flirt with that idea and may have dealt with women that are much younger than themselves, but I don’t think that this is the AVERAGE Black man, regardless of his socio-political background or leanings; especially, if you’re talking about a true and ongoing relationship.

Like I said, I have known Brothers who have been with women much younger, and usually these women are at least in their later 20’s or older, but I have rarely if ever seen a brother 42 “actually� dating, or marrying a woman 18 (in these modern times)!

[Sun Ship]

Originally Posted by rebelAfrika

If the older man doesn't have kids, then being with a woman his age isn't a good idea for having kids. He should be with somebody younger. If the older man doesn't want kids, than being with a younger woman can be good in terms of having somebody to take care of him when he gets too old. Also, the older man can easily get his ego stroked by a young woman who finds him to be so "worldly." Plus, men who are shallow and into appearences more than personality might find younger women to be more attractive than older women. And just in case some of you are wondering...I didn't think this out because I am into it...I thought it out because my daddy was consideraly older than my mama.

Also, you may add what I've heard from some younger women who are about their business, who have said they are tired of meeting brothers who want to take them out in sneakers or tennis shoes, and a basketball jersey and a baseball cap. They believe they can receive some guidance from a older man who is about his business and has been about his business for a long time...

And believe me, some older women have a lot more experience in ego "stroking" than many younger women...lol

[Queen_Samiya]

Thank you all for responding to my questions. I know that age doesn't matter, but sometime it does concern me about these young women, because females like us have strong emotion about being in relationships.

[rebelAfrika]

Originally Posted by Sun Ship

And believe me, some older women have a lot more experience in ego "stroking" than many younger women...lol

Yeah...that's true bruh. I've been sucked into the web of an older woman before...so yeah...I don't know what else to say but "that's true" LOL!

[w.i.s.e.]

Originally Posted by Queen_Samiya

I am so curious to know, because I know that it is not fair for women whom is in their forties that can't get decent men of their age. Why would a average man that is 42 years old want to go with a woman that is 18 years old? Is it something wrong with that picture? Is it natural for a older man to go with a younger woman?

I don't think age has so much to do with it per se. I find myself attracted to older men quite often and they are attracted to me, even though I am a great deal younger than them. It was not so much of the physical, but that we enjoyed each other's company and had stimulating conversation. Age is nothing but a number from my perspective.

[MsLioness]

Originally Posted by rebelAfrika

If the older man doesn't have kids, then being with a woman his age isn't a good idea for having kids. He should be with somebody younger. If the older man doesn't want kids, than being with a younger woman can be good in terms of having somebody to take care of him when he gets too old. Also, the older man can easily get his ego stroked by a young woman who finds him to be so "worldly." Plus, men who are shallow and into appearences more than personality might find younger women to be more attractive than older women. And just in case some of you are wondering...I didn't think this out because I am into it...I thought it out because my daddy was consideraly older than my mama.

Yeah.....I think younger women find older men "wise" and "experienced."

It has lots to do with up-bringing as well.

As a young woman, I look for a brother who can be my father-like figure, as well as my brother(younger AND older), my friend, my mentor, and my comrade(for the lack of a better word). Yeah, I want to be able to trust him. And older conscious men seem to be capable of all of that.

And just in case some of you are wondering...I didn't think this out because I am into it...I thought it out because my daddy was considerably older than my mama.

[Cairo Imhotep]

Well, I'm a young guy and I perfer older women around their early 40s and late 30s.

[MamaDahomey]

Originally Posted by Queen_Samiya

I am so curious to know, because I know that it is not fair for women whom is in their forties that can't get decent men of their age. Why would a average man that is 42 years old want to go with a woman that is 18 years old? Is it something wrong with that picture? Is it natural for a older man to go with a younger woman?

I do not see anything wrong with younger sisters dating older brothers. Age 18 is very young but that is just my opinion. I’m talking women in early, mid, late twenties dating a brother in his 40's early 50's or so. For one, such a man may want to have a few children and a woman his age may not be willing. On the other hand, younger women find older men to be wiser and more experienced then men their own age. As far as if its natural, I would say it is because this has been going on for centuries. Personally, I know many relationships like this that work out fine. Its has a lot to do with your preferences or sometimes you just end up caring for an individual and as a result, could care less about age.

[Sun Ship]

Originally Posted by MamaDahomey

I do not see anything wrong with younger sisters dating older brothers. Age 18 is very young but that is just my opinion. I’m talking women in early, mid, late twenties dating a brother in his 40's early 50's or so. For one, such a man may want to have a few children and a woman his age may not be willing. On the other hand, younger women find older men to be wiser and more experienced then men their own age. As far as if its natural, I would say it is because this has been going on for centuries. Personally, I know many relationships like this that work out fine. Its has a lot to do with your preferences or sometimes you just end up caring for an individual and as a result, could care less about age.

Well said Sister...

It is interesting that just the other day they were talking about one of the presidential candidates’ Dennis Kucinich younger wife, they said she was 30 years his junior, and even on this conservative news channel (Fox) they were talking about it like it was just another “walk in the park�. And this has become so accepted by those who present us mainstream media and cinema that many times the age of these actors and popular figures’ female love interest or wives are never questioned, be it staged in a movie or in real life.

But on the other hand, I have found it interesting how conservative our opinions have been when this subject has been discussed over the years, as we deem our progressive community as being a community of open-minded, non-conformist, and liberated thinkers.

In the end, nature makes it’s demands quietly as it attempts to reeducate, repair, and redevelop our people and our communities. No matter what our social hang ups are, there is an inner-divine intervention going on at a metaphysical level, we just need to step to the side and get rid of those latent European restrictions and close-minded thinking that are part of our hidden conditioning, for this thinking can even permeate and infect the way we as progressive and African-centered people problem solve if were not careful.

[OmowaleX]

Originally Posted by Queen_Samiya

I am so curious to know, because I know that it is not fair for women whom is in their forties that can't get decent men of their age. Why would a average man that is 42 years old want to go with a woman that is 18 years old? Is it something wrong with that picture? Is it natural for a older man to go with a younger woman?

The only way, at age 50, that I would date a young woman 18 years of age is if she approached me frist and expressed a genuine interest in getting to know me, and if we found ourselves to be intellectually and ideologically compatable.

As a rule, I typically employ the "Half plus 7" rule with about a 3 degree margin of error. Which means age 32, or at the least, age 29. But if I met a sister who was Revolutionary Minded and Action oriented there are exceptions to this rule.

Oh yeah...I can't leave Texas for the moment...however tempting.lol!

[Sun Ship]

Originally Posted by OmowaleX

The only way, at age 50, that I would date a young woman 18 years of age is if she approached me frist and expressed a genuine interest in getting to know me, and if we found ourselves to be intellectually and ideologically compatable.

As a rule, I typically employ the "Half plus 7" rule with about a 3 degree margin of error. Which means age 32, or at the least, age 29. But if I met a sister who was Revolutionary Minded and Action oriented there are exceptions to this rule.

Oh yeah...I can't leave Texas for the moment...however tempting.lol!

The Sisters trying to get you to leave Texas are in the other thread my Brother…lol

Again, this is true talk and that’s an interesting formula you got. And I can also agree that approaching a very young woman for such a relationship would be sort of nonsensical. For even if an older Brother who has his self together mentally could be open for such an involvement, he would know that in today’s society this would be the exception and not the rule (as far as a serious-minded relationship). For at the least, an older man could unknowingly talk himself up on more than what is really there.

But, since women choose in the end, it will be Black women regardless of age differences who will need to find this balance within our community. Within reason, the soul mating of minds, spirits, and even bodies is not on an age chart.