Men/Women Cheating, Society or Nature?

[Im The Truth]

"Long ago, Ptahhotep warned us that 'If you are one who fails through
the lust of women, then no affair of yours can prosper.' If sex is
your predominant preoccupation, failure is bound to occur, over and
over again in your life. But, know this, the extreme preoccupation
with sexual conquest promoted and normalized as natural by Western
culture's sex imperative is the primary cause of this lack of
maturity. It is not a naturally occurring phenomenon among all
people. Cheating is not a natural inclination among men or women for
the world's majority. It is not 'in our blood' as many confused
rationalizers believe. We are neither 'dogs' nor 'bitches.' We are
not animals in constant heat. These are socialized conditions.
Therefore, we are only becoming so because we have become 'culturally
misoriented' away from Afrikan tradition and toward the European way
and, as a result, are modeling our sexual appetite after the world's
morally uncivilized minority. Predatory sexual behavior, a mentality
which marriage cannot pacify or suppress and, in Western society, was
never designed to, is part and parcel of the European sex
imperative. It is a mentality which has no place in the Afrikan
tradition. However, it has found its way into the Afrikan mind
because we are constantly and systematically bombarded by imagery and
definitions promoting a European reality. We become like those who
are unable to distinguish right from wrong or, rather, we are
learning wrong along with how to make wrong appear right. Reducing
us to a state of wrong thinking so that we can be controlled within
their cultural framework is the goal. Our confusion can lead us to
no longer see Europeans as abnormal because it causes us to think and
act distorted, like them. Because we are the majority, once we
become abnormal, they become normal."

Mwalimu K. Bomani Baruti
Complementarity: Thoughts for Afrikan Warrior Couples

[Majadi]

Mwalimu dropped the hammer to the nail on this one, I soooo love this! Thank you, thank you, thank you. My Queen and I have had this convo many a time we always thought it a weak male-centric cop-out to say that men are polygamous by nature....when in reality it is just an effort to have a "moral" stance for having sex with any number of women!

[Elisa Keisha]

Its true and i have wondered why, in european culture marriage has never meant to keep men from lust. the european cliche is the man in an old marriage that cant stand his wife or doesnt appreciate her. and the other way around as well. and the use of prostitutes is always popular.

I guess all this comes from the so called catholic mentality that think of sex as a sin even inside marriage (what the??) and women are taught not to enjoy it and therefore the couple never learns to give and recieve pleasure. A relationship is not about pleasure, so you have to find it somewhere else. And since women cant feel pleasure, its always the man who is excused and sometimes praised when he search pleasure(/manhood) outside of marriage.

Its a pity, and these days it gets no better. there's no respect for relationships. Men and women seeking to take somebody else's man and taking pride of it. women hating echother competing for the same man.
I could hardly respect a man that cheat on his woman reiterately, not even if its with me!! why would i want him?? You can make a mistake, but having an affair or having not consideration for your woman/man is a different story and shows a weak character.

[Majadi]

Originally Posted by Elisa Keisha

Its true and i have wondered why, in european culture marriage has never meant to keep men from lust. the european cliche is the man in an old marriage that cant stand his wife or doesnt appreciate her. and the other way around as well. and the use of prostitutes is always popular.

I guess all this comes from the so called catholic mentality that think of sex as a sin even inside marriage (what the??) and women are taught not to enjoy it and therefore the couple never learns to give and recieve pleasure. A relationship is not about pleasure, so you have to find it somewhere else. And since women cant feel pleasure, its always the man who is excused and sometimes praised when he search pleasure(/manhood) outside of marriage.

Its a pity, and these days it gets no better. there's no respect for relationships. Men and women seeking to take somebody else's man and taking pride of it. women hating echother compiting for the same man.
I could hardly respect a man that cheat on his woman reiterately, not even if its with me!! why would i want him?? You can make a mistake, but having an affair or having not consideration to your woman/man is a different story and shows a weak character.

Once again the Afrikan woman spits fire, go ahead beloved do the damn thang!

[intuitivetena]

Its a pity, but to understand an man and his want and need for sex is like understanding the unchanging world as it is today.