Raised by my maternal grandparents in rural MS 'til I was 11, but I saw my mother on the regular. I grew up with my aunt who was 12 years older than me. Consequently, my grandmother became "momma", my grandfather "daddy", and my mother "mommy". My father, who wasn't there for me growing up, received the title of "Daddy", but followed by his first name, but I never felt close to him at all. I never lived extensively in any household with my mother AND my father present, for the simple fact that my mother felt that she and my father were struggling, didn't want to drag me into that, and that I would have more opportunities being raised by my grandparents.
Stuff didn't work out between my mother and father, he left her, then she moved to California, and I followed her when I was 11. Still had minimal contact with my father (no fault of anyone on my mom's side of the family whatsoever), tons of contact with my maternal aunts and uncle and grandparents, and my mother played the role of both mother and father.
Who was at my graduation from medical school? My friends in the Detroit Metro Area, and relatives from my mother's side of the family who have supported me over the years--her aunts and uncles and cousins, one of my maternal aunts and her children, my mommy (of course!) and my little brother, and my grandfather. My father's side of the fam, nor my father, showed up to graduation, but they are definitely calling a helluvalot more now than they have my entire life. Gee. Wonder why...
"......there can be no Revolution without Revelation..."--KRS One