The Importance Of The Family

[THE7TRUTHS]

Peace Brothers and Sisters, I am conducting a new study for my sociology class. My teacher seems to think that families do not count if they do not consist of two parents. I am opting to prove her wrong. How many of you grew up in broken homes? who was there for you? who raised you?
I am truely grateful for your honesty,
Asante

[THE7TRUTHS]

Personally,
My parents were married in Jersey, then they divorced when I was 6. my mother and I lived in NY for a while then we moved to DC. He and I were not close when I got older and we hardly spoke, he was never there but I had a family. my mom was my mom and my dad at the same time.this let me know "family" doesnt mean blood, it means love.....

[La Bella Afrique]

Peace Brothers and Sisters, I am conducting a new study for my sociology class. My teacher seems to think that families do not count if they do not consist of two parents. I am opting to prove her wrong. How many of you grew up in broken homes? who was there for you? who raised you?
I am truely grateful for your honesty,
Asante

I apologise in advance if I offend anyone but your teacher is a fool!

I hate when people chat mess...

What if the dad was molesting the daughter, should the mum stay with him for the sake of "family" or what if the dad was beating on the mum, again should she stay with him for sake of "family"

My childhood is sort of a messy one, I believe I lived with my mum til I was about 2, then I grew with my Auntie, well apparently I was with one first but she couldnt deal with me and then another one til I was 7 who brought me to England to be with my dad, apparently she couldnt cope with me either.

Then from there is was just HELL!!!

As much as my Auntie was a bible bashing slash a whip woman, her and her husband was interested in me....help me with school, took an interest in me, they knew who I was...

When I came to England, IT SUCKED!!!!!!

But everything for a reason I am going to have to use my experiences and make light of it for someone else once I have fully healed....

Anyway my son's dad and I argue like it was a full moon every night for 5 years and I think the best thing we could have done was split because we didnt have the mental capacity and maturity to work through our differences...

But my home is NOT BROKEN! My child is loved, he gets his attention, there is no warfare etc. I believe if his dad and I were still together then it would have been worst. My son enjoys the best of both worlds HAPPILY!!

Em Hotep xXx

[Seeking Ma'at]

Raised by my maternal grandparents in rural MS 'til I was 11, but I saw my mother on the regular. I grew up with my aunt who was 12 years older than me. Consequently, my grandmother became "momma", my grandfather "daddy", and my mother "mommy". My father, who wasn't there for me growing up, received the title of "Daddy", but followed by his first name, but I never felt close to him at all. I never lived extensively in any household with my mother AND my father present, for the simple fact that my mother felt that she and my father were struggling, didn't want to drag me into that, and that I would have more opportunities being raised by my grandparents.
Stuff didn't work out between my mother and father, he left her, then she moved to California, and I followed her when I was 11. Still had minimal contact with my father (no fault of anyone on my mom's side of the family whatsoever), tons of contact with my maternal aunts and uncle and grandparents, and my mother played the role of both mother and father.
Who was at my graduation from medical school? My friends in the Detroit Metro Area, and relatives from my mother's side of the family who have supported me over the years--her aunts and uncles and cousins, one of my maternal aunts and her children, my mommy (of course!) and my little brother, and my grandfather. My father's side of the fam, nor my father, showed up to graduation, but they are definitely calling a helluvalot more now than they have my entire life. Gee. Wonder why...

[MsLioness]

Peace Brothers and Sisters, I am conducting a new study for my sociology class. My teacher seems to think that families do not count if they do not consist of two parents. I am opting to prove her wrong. How many of you grew up in broken homes? who was there for you? who raised you?
I am truely grateful for your honesty,
Asante

I think that arguement plays into the women inferior and men superior ideology.

Both arguments bear truth.

In truth, I believe that women are just counter-parts of men...and men are just counter-parts of women, and that primarily we are ONE HUMANITY.

We are all full-fledged human beings. We are all capable of doing all things. I do believe it is important to have a woman and a man in the household to make that progress necessary to promote human life. It is insane to believe that a woman can conceive a child on her own, and a man can conceive a child on his own. It really takes two. No greater work, no lesser work. Work that is necessary to promote human life.

Even so after the child is born. If the father is not in the household, a counter-part would suffice. If a counter-part is not in the household, a community would suffice. The child cannot be alone, one, isolated human being...that is impossible.

What the problem is, in these type situations, is that no father, no counter-part, no community. Or bad father, bad counter-part, bad community. If the father figure is not a good one---the child suffers greatly. There has to be someone there to fill the void. There is no such thing as having no options. If there is an absent father, surely the child will, naturally, look for someone--a teacher or an action figure or something.

Our job is to make it where if the actual father is not there, that something, such as the community or action heroes, are positive. We cannot control the individuals position, as far personal home-life, but we can control the external environment to which the child will search in.

Therefor family is as much external as it is internal.

Thats my piece on it.